"So You Want To Work With Autistic Kids" Primer

Hi everyone, so I made a post a few days ago about putting together a list of links for my lab partner, who wants to work with autistic children. This is what I’ve come up with. Admittedly it’s more of an “introduction to neurodiversity advocacy” primer, but I think that should come with the job, really. If you’ve got any suggestions, do let me know!

(And sorry for the odd formatting- I can’t for the life of me figure out how to make nesting bullets, even when I enter the html)

TW: mentions (but no discussion in this post) of ableism, neglect, assault, murder, abuse, ABA. All links come with their own warnings unless otherwise noted. If you find one that doesn’t, or is broken, please tell me.

About Autism Speaks:

1. Rose’s master post

General Autism:

1. About autism
2. What it really means when someone says they’re autistic
3. Diagnostic criteria suggested by autistic people (more on what it’s like to be autistic)
4. Yes, That Too’s tips for parents
5. What I Wish I’d Been Made Aware of When My Daughter Was Diagnosed With Autism
6. Tantrums vs meltdowns and shutdowns
7. Stimming
8. Not an epidemic
9. Empathy and the Empath Quotient Test
10. Functioning labels
11. Person-first language
12. Cures
13. Ableism

“Classics” and others widely circulated among autistic self-advocates:

1. The Obsessive Joy of Autism
2. Don’t Mourn For Us
3. Quiet Hands and Grabbers (TW: ableism, abuse, R-slur in Grabbers)
4. The Cost of Compliance is Unreasonable (TW for teachers forcing a child to do something they don’t want to do, huge TW for link within post)

  • Similar, but not so widely spread, is The Influence of Others, a parent’s reaction to “Grabbers” (TW: ableism, abuse)


1. An Analogy (TW: trying to force someone out of autistic behavior)
2. On forcing eye contact
3. Doing “Nothing”
4. The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly: my Assessment of Our Experience with ABA
5. More of Rose’s thoughts

  • The post linked in the above (she changed her blog title, so “caffeinatedaspie” URL links don’t work)

6. An Open Letter to Parents Considering Intensive Behavioral Therapy for Their Child With Autism (TW: detailed descriptions of ABA methods, child’s PTSD)

  • And Part Two (the link kind of gets lost at the bottom, so I put it here too)
  • As disgusting as it is, a lot of people dismiss autistic voices on the topic of harmful therapy in favor of parents’ and child development professionals’ voices. The writers of this are both, so it may be useful to convince people with that attitude

7. A list of posts by others (I haven’t read these)
8. And more

Ableism (important to understand the prejudice autistic people face): (TW for ableism, neglect, assault, murder on this entire section)

1. Murders by parents and caregivers
2. Commentary on other people’s dismissal of murders
3. Transplant discrimination
4. Medical discrimination
5. The Pillow Angel (not autism, cerebral palsy, but important to recognize what people will do out of “concern” to a non-speaking person)


1. Loud Hands: Autistic People, Speaking

2. And Straight On Till Morning: Essays on Autism Acceptance
3. I Love Being My Own Autistic Self: a thAutoons Book
4. The Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism
5. Yes, That Too’s book list


1. Wretches and Jabberers

Autistic Self Advocacy Network (ASAN):

1. ASAN website
2. Their “Autism Acceptance Month” PSA
3. One of their videos (and amazing commentary about nonverbal communication at the bottom)

Good Blogs:

1. The Caffeinated Autistic (also goldenheartedrose on tumblr)
2. Yes, That Too (also yesthattoo on tumblr)
3. Autistic Hoya
4. Just Stimming
5. Radical Neurodivergence Speaking
6. Tiny Grace Notes (AKA Ask an Autistic)
7. ThAutcast
8. The Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism

Things recommended by people I follow (but that I haven’t really looked at personally):

1. Rose’s favorite blogs
2. Rose’s resource list
3. Yes, That Too’s list

Other resources:

1. The ‘askanautistic’ tag on tumblr- tag your post with this and autistic people who are willing to educate others will see your question